Best sex positions for men with a large penis
Although many men think that having a large member would be a gift from the gods, the truth is that it can be as much of handicap as an advantage in the loving department. In fact, some might say that the only advantage is that you can impress other men in the locker room; for although a few woman may be "size queens", the majority, despite bawdy talk among girlfriends, are anything but.
A long penis is actually less desirable than an average one for the majority of women: anything over seven inches long is just too long for sex, and can be uncomfortable; bear in mind that the average vagina is about five inches long, though admittedly it does stretch out when a woman is sexually aroused - but certainly not to eight inches or more (which seems to be the length of penis that many men think of as "ideal"!). Most women can only accommodate such a large penis is if they are highly aroused.
This is because when a woman is very aroused, her uterus tilts back and her vagina effectively elongates underneath her cervix (as pictured when she's lying on her back, that is).
But the problem, of course, is that most women simply don't get extremely sexually aroused during sex: certainly not to the same extent as men. And so for most women, most of the time, the maximum length of penis they can comfortably accommodate in their vagina is about six inches - maybe seven at a pinch. And guess what? This happens to be the average penis size among white men. (Asian men and woman are both smaller in the genital department, so they too fit well together. Obviously you potentially have a problem when you have a Caucasian man and an Asian woman making love.)
So, men who are six inches or less, take heart! You're the right length for 90% of women. And if you meet one who likes more meat on her man, well, satisfy her with oral sex until she can't do without you!
However, we digress. We were thinking about the ideal sex position for men who are well-endowed. The object is to give him feeling but to keep her safe from having her cervix bumped as he thrusts with his long cock. So any position that gives him the impression that he is deep inside her, while in fact his penetration is actually quite shallow, is going to work well.
A very good position to achieve this is to have the man lie on the bed face upwards, and then have his partner lie on top of him with her back on his chest, so they are both facing upwards. Then he can insert his penis between her thighs and into her vagina: the angle of attack means he can't get his whole length into her, but the effect is that the shaft of his cock is held loosely between her thighs. This means that he gets good sensation as he thrusts - and this can be improved if he uses a lot of lube on her thighs, so that the sensations he gets in the lower part of his cock are very similar to those the upper part of his shaft feels when it's inside her vagina. She can play with her clitoris, which may mean that she can reach orgasm - which will be an added pleasure for them both!
Other positions which may be helpful if you're in this situation are the ones where the man cannot enter his partner deeply, or where she has some measure of control over how deeply he enters her. For example (click on any picture to expand it):
The alternative to getting into these positions, of course is to exert some control over the depth to which you thrust in normal positions such as man on top or woman on top. This is OK, unless you get carried away by sexual desire and forget to exercise your self-control! Still, if you do, her screams as you hit her cervix may well remind you to take more care!
But what if your organ is short and thick (or even long and thick rather than long but of average girth)?
The short and thick scenario is surprisingly common: many men have a cock that is short and thick rather than long when erect. And this presents a wholly different set of challenges for the man and his partner. When asked, many women say they like the feeling of fullness, so a man whose erection is thicker than average may be a satisfying sexual partner for women who enjoy the added pleasure of feeling "full" during lovemaking. (I think at this stage I should add that women find many other things much more important than size during sex with a partner. Here are some examples of the kind of thing we mean:
This isn't really a "positions problems", it's much more about whether or not her vagina is relaxed enough to admit your large girth. Certainly there can be a number of problems in getting into your partner with a member like the ones illustrated above. If she's a bit nervous about penetration, the sight of such a large organ poking at her vaginal opening isn't going to be very reassuring! She may well tighten up - completely involuntarily - when you move towards penetration, which can lead to vaginismus. This is an involuntary tightening of the muscles around the vaginal opening, and it can completely stop you gaining entry into your partner's body. The cure is relaxation, lubrication (either natural or artificial), reassurance, and training her vagina to admit gradually increasing sizes of dildoes. Let's face it, being penetrated by one of those monsters must be a bit frightening! She's going to have to be very relaxed, very confident, very aroused and very lubricated - all of which means that you're probably in a well-established relationship, you love (or at least respect each other), and she's happy you'll be gentle enough not to hurt her. So a good way to start is to give her control over the speed and depth of penetration - side by side or woman on top positions are good for this.
After she's realized that she can in fact accommodate you, then she'll be much more relaxed the next time. But a very good idea is to use lots of lube, artificial lube that is, to enhance her natural lubrication. This will undoubtedly make penetration easier, and sex more pleasant for you both - and with something that size, there's not likely to be any issues about a lack of feeling or tightness for either of you, no matter how much lube you use!
Question from a 10 inch long guy: I have a girl who can only take half my length. But what would you say - is it better when tight rather than deep? I like to feel my hips banging against my girl's as I go deep into her - there's no better feeling for me. And if she can only get half of my length in, then I can't do that and, worse, I won't come. What do others do?
Answer 1 from a woman: I am pretty small - 5'2'' - and my boyf is 9.5 inches. When we started having sex I could only accept half his shaft - but a lot of that was me feeling nervous about his size. Now it all goes in, and when it does, I can feel him pushing the back wall of my vagina while we make love!
Answer 2 from a man: I'm not a tall man, 5 feet 10 inches, but boy, am I hung! I like to go out with small girls, but imagine the problems! A lot of petite girls can't even get their hand around my cock! As for sex, I soon realized that lots of foreplay and lots of lube was essential. If she's tight, then yes, you have to go slow, but boy, when she's full you just OWN her.
My favorite was a blonde woman, a long time ago, who was desperate to have sex when she saw me, but when I got in her, started moaning, "Oh no..... it's too big, I can't handle it, this is too much," and so on. Since I'm considerate, I whispered, "Look, we can stop if you want." She immediately replied, "Don't you fucking dare!" Then, when it was all over, she had that strange look in her eye as she said, "Man, big cocks are FUN!"
Answer 3 from a man: I think petite girls always have small pussies. But having said that, I think all girls can take a large diameter cock because all pussies can be very accepting of large girth. It's the length of the vagina that is related to a woman's height. My wife is 5'10" and very nearly the tallest woman I ever slept with. She is also the woman who can take more of my 10 inch shaft than anyone else I ever met. Sad to say, I have never felt my hips pounding against a woman's, yet I really wish I could do so.....but who am I kidding? As you know if you're hung like me, there's no substitute for having a massive cock!
Answer 4 from a man:
If you hit her cervix it's going to hurt, since most vaginas are only about six inches. That's why it's unrealistic to believe that sex is going to be pain free for her, especially if she's ovulating. If you say the woman couldn't take it, it begins to sound like it's the woman's fault, whereas in fact this is simply the result of an anatomical mismatch which you can't do anything about. If she hasn't got the capacity to take your length, then she can't take it, and that's pretty much it. On the other hand, girth is a different matter. I think most woman can accommodate a large penis if they are sufficiently relaxed, and the only problem you might face here is that their perineum can't stretch enough to take the penis with a huge girth during sex. The solution, as you may already have guessed, is to use plenty of lubrication and make sure she is aroused before you try and penetrate her. Her natural lubrication will only be sufficient if she produces a copious supply, and not all women do - especially after the menopause, when breastfeeding, and sometimes on the pill. For the guys who have a penis as thick as a beer can, the answer also lies in letting her take control - especially the first few times you have sex. She's going to be frightened, no doubt about it, if she does not have the experience of having sex with such a large penis, so she needs the reassurance of knowing that she can control the pace and depth of penetration. She can lower herself down onto you at a speed that suits her and this will enable her to relax and be sure she can take all of you before she stretches painfully. In other words, it will stop her stretching painfully.
Second, if you lie on top of your partner and she holds her legs together, you can thrust your penis between her thighs and only have the top part of it inside her. This feels like you have buried yourself deep in her, and provides friction all along the penile shaft, so that you have a very satisfying experience, and she is again in no danger of having you thrust right up inside her. The other position where you can achieve something similar is the side by side position where the woman lies on her side and you enter her either from behind or facing her, but once again you need the base of your penis to be between her thighs so that you get the effect of deep penetration.
These are real issues for men with massive length or girth. Some women I have managed to get deep into, and that was very satisfying sex, others however, I have just got nowhere with. For example, there was a small Japanese girl with whom I had sex - I could not even get the head of my penis into her vagina. If we loosened her up with cunnilingus and fingering for about an hour, I could shaft her from behind in the rear entry position, but if we then flipped over and tried for man on top again, I could still only get half of the length of my cock inside her vagina.
Of course all of this was very unsatisfying, and I came to realize that sex can be incredibly frustrating at times for men like us - even when the woman is having fun. I have always wanted to feel that I can pull the woman around her waist back down onto my cock, bury it deep in hr and grind her clit on my pubic area - fat chance. The really odd things is that once I met a small white girl who was around five feet two who could take all of my length - so maybe Asian girls really do have smaller vaginas
