Side by side sex positions

What better position for two lovers in love? This is the position where you can truly show your lover how much you adore them, with slow romantic sex in a position that lends itself to all kinds of exciting variations. You can take it slowly, holding each other closely, or you can lean back and stare into each other's eyes; you can take it fast and furiously, with powerful sex in a position that still lets you look at each other; you can have the female partner lift her leg so you get a clear view of penetration; and you can turn around in this position so that the man's chest nestles into the woman's back, and you then have a combination of snuggling sex and rear entry sex!

The easiest way to get into the side by side sex position is to start in the missionary or man on top position and then roll over onto one side. That's how the couple in the photo above moved into the side by side position. So, rather than staying in the same position throughout a session of sex, why not start in the man on top position and then roll onto your sides? This way you can look at each other, see his balls, and him entering her, and see her vulva and labia, breasts and buttocks. Sex in this position can be very exciting and comes highly recommended for everyone - not just large people or pregnant couples!

Perhaps people don't try this sex position because they think it's complicated. And yet the fact is, it's really easy! You start in the man on top position with the woman raising her legs towards her chest so that her knees are bent. Ideally, her thighs should be round about the same place as the man's waist. He then thrusts his cock deeply into her and holds it there as you roll over - decide which way you're going beforehand, though! You'd think the woman's legs might be crushed, but actually this position is really comfortable if she as them high enough before you roll over. Then make any minor adjustments until you feel really comfortable together.

The first variation you can try is leaning back away from each other so you can get a good view of each other. You can clearly see penetration - very exciting! But even more arousing is the variation where the woman lifts her leg and holds it there - now you can really see all the details of each other's genitals; even better, you can see him withdrawing and entering her, his shaft covered in her vaginal juices, and you can play with her clitoris and labia and his balls.

Another variation on the theme is to use this position for vigorous sex when you want to maintain a sense of connection or try some spiritual work during sex. You can make love, pause, talk, relax, carry on, look at each other, send energy to each other, relax, and carry on again. Ringing the changes like this makes sex much more interesting and ultimately makes your orgasms much more powerful. (The longer the build-up, the better the climax.)

In addition, of course, it's great for the end of the day lovemaking when you don't feel very energetic but you'd still like to have some connection with your lover.

Even better, there's little danger of the man slipping out in this position, even if he is a bit on the small side; and because the position puts less pressure on the penis, a man who's a bit prone to coming too quickly may find that he can last a lot longer in side by side sex - especially if you slow down or stop during your lovemaking (without him withdrawing), and start again when he's less excited.

Variations of side by side sex

 

The scissors position

If you look at the photos above the advert, you can see that the couple making love have moved into the spoons position in the second photo, and the scissors position in the third photo. Spooning is a romantic, relaxed position for sex, ideal for pre-sleep lovemaking. It's exciting because of the sight and touch of the woman's buttocks. However, the sensations produced may not be that intense. (Though that's good for premature ejaculators!) As always, each change of angle and position will produce slightly different sensations and feelings. By experimenting you will be able to find the position that suits you best. Keep your sex fun and relaxed!

A woman's viewpoint

I love changing position during sex: this makes a sex session more than a routine and (perhaps a bit familiar) period of man on top, doggy style or what-have-yo. That's not to say I don't like the man on top position , of course - I love it: I love feeling my man on top of me, I love the contact and the reconnection as he pushes into me; and I love being able to caress him. But having said that I do also like to vary the position a bit by moving my legs: either hugged round his waist, which really aroused him, or straightened out, or angled at the knees (which permits slightly deeper penetration) or very straight and held closely together which means more pressure on his penis and balls. Even if we have to wriggle round to get into this position, the extra sensation is well worth it!

A man's viewpoint

I think as a couple my partner and I were a little bit sexually unadventurous for some time after we got together, although we certainly enjoyed sex a great deal. Maybe that just means we were so satisfied that we didn't need to seek out novelty and experiment with positions! Anyhow, after years having sex mostly in the man on top position, we started to play with side by side sex, and we enjoyed some fantastic sessions of lovemaking! Like most men, I'm a sucker for any position that allows me to look at my cock as I thrust into my partner - and she seems to like it as well, since she loves to reach down and feel the base of my shaft as it comes out of her, wet with her natural lube. This position certainly  lends itself to a whole variety of exciting positions! The man can stroke his partner, or vice versa, and the couple can exchange loving words.

So for me the greatest advantage of side by side is the intimacy that you can get. There's so much opportunity to kiss, caress and cuddle, with or without being locked together! The thing about this position is that it gives such variety - important if you're having sex several times a week - and it can be both intimate and fast and furious when you want powerful thrusting. It suits all our needs. Another wonderful thing is the amount of bodily contact that's possible: all of your front can be in contact with your partner's front, and there's plenty of chance for massaging each other, touching and caressing. Since it's so intimate, you can make great use of this when the woman is pregnant.

We've all heard of the spoons position. It's one of the most common variations of side by side sex, where the man lies behind the woman but they both face the same way. When you're lying on your side like this, you can rest your belly on the bed - which makes it very useful for large people or, as my partner and I discovered, for a woman in the last stages of pregnancy. When the man tucks himselff in behind her, he can enter her without too much trouble, though a certain amount of maneuvering may be needed to get the alignment right. You don't have a great deal of opportunity to thrust, but it's intimate and connected, and the man can fondle his partner's breasts and stroke her belly - and either of them can play with her clitoris.

More variations of the side by side sex position

We spoke earlier of the scissors positions - when the man has entered his partner, she can roll over on her back a little, and place one of her legs over her partner's, so that she presents her vulva to both partner's gaze. There's ample opportunity for the couple to stroke and caress each other, especially her stomach, though the man's opportunity to thrust is rather limited. The woman can stimulate the man's balls, which he might like, and she can shift position slightly until she finds a position in which her G spot gets most stimulation.

Scissors ("cuissade") positions and side-by-side sex positions

This is a subtle variation of the side by side position. The woman is lying on her back, the man lies on his side at right angles to her - she then draws her thighs back towards her stomach and he enters her as he lies under her.

The man can enter her quite deeply, and there's the opportunity for a lot of movement, although being at right angles, the couple can't kiss, but the man can touch most of his partner's body including her breasts. If you like anal play, this position lets you touch and play with each other's anus.

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Side by side sex oppositions mean longer sex, bigger orgasms and all-round pleasure

Face to face, side by side

This is truly a warm and loving sexual position. It conveys affection, love and friendship to each other - and especially from the man to the woman. Its biggest advantage is that neither partner's weight is resting on the other and you can therefore enjoy greater freedom of movement and either gentle or vigorous pelvic thrusting, as the mood takes you, without restriction. 

Once you're in the position, if you keep your chests close together, you can kiss; if you move further apart, you can caress each other's chests and belly, you both have access to her clitoris, and if the woman lifts her upper leg, you can both enjoy the sight of penetration and intercourse.

There are several variations of position which you can enjoy when you are lying side by side. The easiest is to start in the man on top position, then to roll over onto your sides.  Before you roll, have one of the woman's legs over the man's upper thigh, and one of her legs under his other thigh, so he lies between them. Her legs must be fairly high, so that when you've rolled over, it feels a bit like she's sitting in his lap.

Here's a picture which illustrates all this:

 You may find it takes a little experimentation to get your positions exactly right, so that her legs are comfortable, but once you're there, sex can continue for as long as you wish. There's much less pressure on the man's penis, so if you're normally prone to coming too quickly, you can penetrate your partner and enjoy sex with her for much longer than you may be used to. You can thrust as gently or as vigorously as you like, and when you lie still you can enjoy the feeling of sexual energy and connection that develops when you're in this position. 

You may find thrusting easier if the man wraps his arm around his partner's back so that as he thrusts he can pull her towards him; alternatively, she may wrap her legs around his buttocks so that she can pull him in towards him as he thrusts. 

An alternative to facing each other for sex in this position is to move into the spooning position, where the man snuggles up to his partner's back and places his penis between her buttocks as he enters her. You won't get very deep into her, but it's cuddly, warm and fun to try it. This position is also a good one for sex when you wake up in the morning and you both want to start a relaxed session of lovemaking. If she then bends forward from the waist, or he leans backwards, he'll be able to penetrate her more deeply.